scarletbooksandthoughts replied to your post: It’s not about how much you drink…
wow that is super powerful.
I wrote this because I have been seeing all these silly debates on how many drinks it takes to have a drinking problem. And the answer is - you can’t put a number on that.
It’s interesting. When people know you are sober, they want you to diagnose everyone else. But honestly, I don’t think it’s that easy. Sometimes I see people drinking in an unhealthy manner but I wouldn’t run and call them an alcoholic. I also probably wouldn’t seek them out to hang out with. There are so many wonderful non-drinking things to do.
I really believe it’s a self-diagnosed condition and only the individual can seek recovery. Recovery is hard, it’s the hardest thing I have ever done. You can’t force it on someone.
Believe me, I have tried to get friends sober. It doesn’t work and at the end of the day, its a waste of time and life. Time that I could spend working on myself.
I know that for me, I couldn’t live with how drinking made me feel. It’s still a decision I have to wake up and actively choose. Life is not a fairy tale, there’s no grand ending. As soon as you learn to accept that, sobriety gets a whole lot easier. Life becomes fun.
scarletbooksandthoughts replied to your post: Lost in Austen
yep I don’t do parties anymore either. There is no point in me sitting around trying to socialize with drunk people. I invest in other things as well. And I like going to bed around 10am and getting up early :)
There is something so amazing about having half of your daily goals completed by noon. I keep forgetting that being alone used to be intolerable. Now it’s probably one of my favorite things to do, hang out at home on a friday night poring over some book or movie. Also, having interests to pursue! I used to have canned responses for the “about me” section of life because I honestly didn’t have anything else to say other than “I love happy hour”. Or I would tell people my favorite book from like college because I hadn’t spent much time pursuing a new one.
It’s amazing how full life becomes when you stop drinking. It’s like there is so much to do in a day and so little time. Best decision I have ever made, every single day.
scarletbooksandthoughts replied to your post: Downton Abbey
you watched the first episode. Oh I am so jealous! I didn’t have time. Gonna do it tonight when the little one is at soccer practice. So is Lost in Austen good? It’s in my queue. Totally embarrassed to say that.
I LOVED LOVED LOVED Lost in Austen. In fact, you should make it a priority. I may have watched it twice. in a row. You know, just in case I missed any delicate plot points from the first viewing. The movie completely re-imagines Pride and Prejudice, like what would have happened if Jane didn’t get with Bingley and instead married Collins. It was pretty well written for a little soap opera. I am also a huge Pride and Prejudice fan, I have read this book maybe a hundred times.
Idk, I have told my life story over and over to over a couple hundred of people. There’s really not much left for me to be embarrassed by. Embrace it. Personally, these are the things that make me happy.
I was actually telling a friend this weekend how I haven’t been to a party since July 4th. I like a good party, that’s a pretty long time for me. It’s not that I haven’t been invited, it’s just that I am much more interested in pursuing the things that make me happy. Plus, I would be a total bore at happy hour.
scarletbooksandthoughts replied to your post: I intensely DISLIKE Lady Gaga.
I totally agree. She also thinks she making social commentaries. And if she is, I think that’s cool, but and this is a huge but…she misses the mark. Her market doesn’t understand her social commentary and it doesn’t work.
She’s a narcissist with an inferiority complex. Sounds pretty familiar right?
